1. Blatant negativity.
Keep calm and think positively. Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others. Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you. I have far too many positive things to do.” Take the next 24 hours and every time you start to complain, realize it, admit it and stop it. How often do you complain and harp on negative thoughts? It may be more often than you think. Know that bringing awareness to this unproductive habit is the first step to overcoming it. You are not allowed to complain about something unless you’re going to do something about it.
It’s better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. Instead of complaining about your circumstances, get busy creating new ones. Remember that stumbling blocks become stepping-stones when you look for the positive in a situation, even if you have to look a little harder than usual. Be thankful for the little struggles you go through today. They make you stronger and wiser. Don’t let them break you; let them make you.
And when it comes to your interactions with negative people… Smile, even if you have to force it. Laugh, even if it hurts. Don’t let them get to you. You are amazing and life is good, regardless of what others say. Those who talk down to you are just trying to walk tall by making you feel small. Rise up. If someone has nothing nice to say, ignore them.
2. Your aching, inner quest for perfection.
The quest for perfection always ends in devastation. Thinking you have to do things perfectly is like strapping an extra 500 pounds to your back – it absolutely crushes you. Perfection is correlated with depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis or missed opportunities. The fear of failing, making mistakes, not meeting people’s expectations, and being criticized keeps us outside the arena where healthy competition and striving unfolds.
You might not be the most beautiful, the strongest, or the most talented person in the world, and that’s OK. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. You’re great at being YOU. You might not be proud of all the things you’ve done in the past, but that’s okay too. The past is not today. Be proud of who you are, how you’ve grown, and what you’ve learned along the way.
Ultimately, you need to realize that perfect is the enemy of great. And the real world doesn’t reward perfection; it rewards people who get great things done. And the only way to get great things done is to be imperfect 99.9% of the time.
3. Expecting that everything ‘should’ be easy.
Easy days don’t exist when you’re doing amazing things. Not everything that’s faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it’s faced. Many people never achieve what they want in life because when opportunity knocks, they’re still sleeping and dreaming and waiting for a miracle. Remember, problems are not stop signs, they’re guidelines. Losing is a learning experience. Strength does not come from winning at everything. Your greatest struggles develop your greatest strengths.
In the end, you are not what you have done, but what you have overcome. All the hardships. All the mistakes. All the rejections. All the pain. All the times you questioned why. All of these things have given birth to the wisdom and strength that will help you shine your light on the world, even in the darkest of hours.
If you find this behaviours in yourself , don't tolerate them. Just say ,,Stop! I can be better. I want to be happy and I will not let my mind break me.''