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What Can You Do When There Is Nothing You Can Change

I don’t really believe in destiny.
We are the creators of our lives every single day and most of the pains and sufferings are just results of our attitude.

Life is full of uncontrollable events.Yet, in most of the situations the only thing we really can control is the attitude we choose to respond with.

When you really take the time to think about it, everything happening around us is neutral,  until the point that we give it meaning.

No matter what you’re going through, it’s all about choosing the right questions and the right answers to them:

Will I allow this to upset me?
Will I choose to make this a bad or a good lesson?
Will I choose to stay or walk away? 
Will I choose to yell or whisper? 
Will I choose to react or take the time to respond?

Sometimes changing the present situation isn’t possible. You can’t get to a new job in an instant. You can’t make someone change against his or her will. And you definetely can’t change the past. But…

You can always choose your  attitude towards this. And this is something what you can’t control.This is, almost always, the only thing you can control.

So please, when in doubt and anger, ask yourself: Is this really a problem for me? Is it my problem? Can I overlook this ?

Let's be honest, negative attitude  is the biggest enemy of the present moment.

It does nothing but to steal your joy , hurt you and the ones you care about .
When you spend time arguing, you’re simply using your energy  in the wrong purpose. You are meant to be caring and loving, respecting and cherishing the ones close to you.Your voice is meant to speak words of love and encouragement. Your hands are made to caress and nourish.

Understand that, somewhere within you, there is a higher self who is always in peace. You have it in you for sure.

Because inner peace does not depend on external conditions,does not depend on my reactions , or someone elses.It’s what remains when you’ve surrendered your ego and worries. Peace can be found within you at any place and at any time. It’s always there, patiently waiting for you to turn your attention toward it.

Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind. It happens when you let go of the need to be anywhere but where you are, physically and emotionally. This acceptance of the way things are creates the harmony. 
The need for something or someone  to be different in this moment is nothing more than  the ego who wants to control and this simply leads you in circles, hurting yourself.

It’s always the right time to embrace the present – just the acceptance of right here, right now. Only then you have the power to focus on your challenges and opportunities more mindfully ... which changes everything in the long-run!

So again, please think about it: 
Who would you be and what else would you see, if you erased the thought that’s making you angry NOW? 
If you just could shut down the Ego and listen to the one in front of you, would you see a beloved one or just another enemy?

Nothing is as strong as gentleness .And nothing is as gentle as tone strength.
It takes a lot of courage to be gentle in these days.

May peace live in your hearts.




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Dragul meu,

stiu ca in ochii tai nu am fost mama perfecta.
Desi am facut tot ce am putut, mereu a ramas ceva ce putea fi mai bine facut, ceva ce ai fi avut nevoie si eu nu mi-am dat seama.

Dinainte sa te nasti, noi doi am fost prieteni.
Iti povesteam seara in timp ce priveam stelele tot ce am vazut, toate emotiile mele, cum e lumea in care vei veni. Iti spunea cat de bine ne vom intelege noi si ca vom fi bine. Ca orice s-ar intampla, noi ne avem unul pe altul si vom reusi impreuna sa trecem prin orice.
Si chiar asa a fost.
Iti citeam Sorell si fiul si am sperat din tot sufletul ca voi fi un parinte macar pe jumatate la fel de bun ca Sorell.
Poate am reusit sau poate nu. Doar tu stii asta.
Noi, mamele, mereu avem senzatia ca nu am facut tot ce trebuia. Dar poate tie ti-a fost de ajuns.

Stiu ca acum esti suparat ca te-am pedepsit luandu-ti laptopul. Si probabil tu crezi ca sunt nedreapta.
Si eu am crezut asta despre bunicii tai.
Dar cand vei mai creste, vei intelege ca parintii cauta s…

Cuvantul care iti va schimba viata

''Daca singura rugaciune pe care o spui este Multumesc, este de ajuns.''
Meister Eckhart

Fii recunoscator pentru ceea ce nu ai....daca ai avea, ce rost ar mai avea viata fara vise?
Fii recunoscator pentru ceea ce nu stii...e o oportunitate sa inveti.
Fii recunoscator pentru toate greutatile prin care treci...doar asa vei creste.
Fii recunoscator pentru limitarile tale...ele iti dau oportunitatea sa te dezvolti.
Fii recunoscator pentru fiecare provocare...iti va construi caracterul si te va intari.
Fii recunoscator pentru greselile pe care le faci...te invata lectii valoroase.
Fii recunoscator pentru momentele cand te simti epuizat...inseamna ca ai dat tot ce puteai.

E usor sa fii recunoscator pentru lucrurile bune din viata ta...totusi, o viata plina de impliniri este data celor care au multumit pentru piedicile intalnite in drumul lor.
Recunostinta transforma ''zilele negre'' in "zile albe''.
Azi poate ti se pare greu sa spui Multumesc.

Ga…

Daca ti-as spune ca poti avea totul, ai fi dispus sa platesti pretul?

,,nimic in viata nu este gratuit''.

E o vorba din batrani. Stiu ei ce stiu !

Gandindu-ma la asta mi-au venit in minte toate intamplarile cand am simtit ca pentru a ajunge la ceea ce imi doresc era necesar sa ma decid ce sunt dispusa sa ofer Universului in schimb.

Asa cum Phoenix trebuie sa arda intai, pentru a renaste din propria cenusa, la fel si eu a trebuit sa renunt la ceva care ma definea pentru a face loc altor lucruri mai bune.

Pentru ca nu exista lumina fara intuneric, yin fara yang, soare fara noapte si nu ai putea sti cand esti fericit, daca nu ai trecut prin perioade din care simteai ca nu mai gasesti iesirea.
Toata viata este un ciclu continuu de inceput si sfarsit.


Nu putem cunoaste extazul daca nu cunoastem agonia intai- si cu cat e agonia mai adanca, cu atat mai puternic vei putea simti extazul. Totul are un pret. Extazul se plateste prin agonie.

Pentru a te elibera de durere, trebuie sa o cunosti intai, sa treci prin ea. Nu te poti elibera de ceea ce nu cunosti.